From Sobriety To Recovery: An Addiction Recovery Podcast

Partying sober & day-to-day sobriety, Ep22

Going to concerts and events you used to party at can be hard, but there are plenty of ways to change how you see the partying going on around you. It's all in perspective and today is the day to start making that change - in your behavior, your attitude and your thoughts.

Bonus: how to fill your normal days with activities that keep you humming along in sobriety.

1. Play it out through to the credits.

2. Really watch everyone chase the dragon

3. Realize you don't have the ability or strength to party for 1 night and move on.

   • I do not want to manage it anymore
   • I am moving toward my best life
     • not away from being a drunk, druggy
   • Toward having fun sober
     • not away from hoping to enjoy myself sober

How to fill up the time in your normal day

• get a job

  • get a job you actually like

• get a hobby

  • or 3

• learn to enjoy learning

  • find things you are interested in and start learning about them

• start working out and be healthy

  • go for walks, hike, explore your city, neighborhood

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Obstacle Thoughts - change your perception of your negative thoughts, Ep21

Obstacle thoughts: thoughts that are perceived obstacles to the goal or destination you want to achieve.

- Purpose, direction, and reason for what we are doing with our lives
- Without goals, there is no direction or movement and only stagnation

Obstacle thoughts strengthen themselves by providing evidence through your own actions
- Law of Attraction
- Frequency Bias or Illusion (Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon)
- Confirmation bias
Reticular Activating System - the idea that you see what it is your conscious and unconscious mind is looking for.

Through my actions, the thought becomes more believable the more I think it, fell it, and embody it.

How do we change this?
How do we do it?

You can not do this in your head!

• write it all down
• must be outside of your head
• as an external, separate thing
• obstacle thoughts are optional

When you are in a rush to overcome your current situation you miss out on the skill set that comes from overcoming your own current thinking.

In order to think differently, you have to know what you are thinking now.

• you have to know where you are
• where do I want to go
• what are the obstacles in between

The realizing and overcoming of the Obstacle Thought is the objective - not achieving the outcome!

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Prioritizing your addiction recovery, E20

Your sobriety and recovery must come first or everything else won't even exist - let alone come second. How are you prioritizing yourself? I utilize the four components of life: physical, emotional, mental, & spiritual to structure my addiction recovery.

 

• This is where I was

  • always hungover
  • sad, lonely, disconnected, depressed - name a negative emotion and I felt it.
  • underachieving
  • determination but no motivation
  • no direction
  • always 80% rarely the last 20%

 

• This is what happened

  • I broke my leg
  • laid in bed and drank myself to blackout for three months
  • body shut down
  • my internal drive began to really get pissed off
  • I hit 220 pounds
  • my sister got sober - the catalyst for this journey!

 

• This is where I am now

 

• NLP master practitioner

  • certified life coach
  • certified business coach
  • multiple certifications for coaching

 

• Public Speaker: positive habit creation through mindfulness and intention setting

  • motivational
  • inspirational
  • growth mindset

 

• Podcaster

  • From Sobriety to Recovery
  • College Success Habits

 

• Author

  • Life's Blueprint
  • College Success Habits (Fall 2019 release)

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Destroy anxiety and frustration through life organization, E19

1. Just say NO

   • What is important in your life?
   • FOMO & YOLO
   • Parties are forgotten, grades are forgotten, most everything you do in school, work, LIFE will be forgotten - except the experiences that truly bonded you with other people, places, or things.

2. What is the end result? Where are you going to get to?

   • Reverse engineer what it is you want the outcome to be and lay down the timeline from there.

3. P + 4F

   • Priority - the one thing you have to do that day to make the day a success.

   • If you, out of nowhere, realize you didn't get this one thing done as you were turning in for bed, you'd shoot up and go right to work on it - that is you Priority for the day!

   • Four Focuses - Minor priorities that will shift up if they are not done within a few days of being listed.

 - P
 - F
 - F
 - F
 - F

Get yourself to visualize it

What happens if you don't organize your day?

 

Watch Thom Rigsby's P4F video at this link

Thom Rigsby - Priority and Four Focuses

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Stop living in the past - why you and others can't see your evolution, Ep18

Sometimes others are to busy seeing who you were to see who you've become. Sometimes you are to busy seeing your old self in your head or in the mirror to see the new you. Are your actions, behaviors, attitudes, and words conveying you have changed?

You are already making drastic changes in every area of your life because you are fully embracing sobriety and recovery - now, you know it is time to turn it up. You have realized long before now - continuing with old behaviors, attitudes, and actions, while talking the way you always have will only inhibit your growth. It can block the growth you experience, the growth you see and especially what others experience and see.

A new you is already in you. A newer you blossoms out of the new you and soon a newest you will chrysalis from that version. Do not let the caterpillar you were get in the way of the butterfly you are today. 

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Cease comparing yourself to others by getting to know the new you, Ep17

This is a page from a book my therapist uses for our topics on our Monday night meetings. This was the excerpt for April 29th.

We can define who we are by getting to know ourselves in sobriety and recovery. This means we get to re-evaluate what we stand for, our moral character, our belief systems, what we will enjoy, and what we won't tolerate any longer.

We can also stop judging others by no longer judging ourselves so harshly or at all. When we judge others, we find something we do not like in them.

This passage has many layers, and I look forward to covering them with you in this week's episode.

 

Getting to know Myself

Today, I will cease looking for my face in other people's faces.

If I want to know who I am, I will observe myself in action, watching the inner workings of my mind.

No one has better access to me than me. If I don't know who I am and what I'm about, I certainly can not expect anyone else to tell me.

When I seek to be defined by others, I live from pillar to post, from one person's idea of me to a job description to a title or role to another person's idea of who I am.

I lose my center and seek to find it in people, places, and things outside myself.

Who I am is a changing thing. There is not one version of me to get to know and, finally, be done with it. I let myself change and grow.

I befriend my changing self

The more peculiar his own man's character, the better it fits him.

 

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How to overcome toxic relationships and clear their negative energy, Ep16

Emotional Self Regulation

• Attitude: control your and don't get emotionally triggered.
• Intention: what is the outcome you desire from the interaction?
• Attention: what action(s) will you take to see the outcome achieved?
• Distraction: their words will be the #1 thing to overcome!

 Ask yourself why are they saying this?

• to make themselves feel better
• to keep you down
• they are used to the way things are
• manipulation
• self-hate
• they don't want to see you succeed where they might, will, or have not succeeded to the standard they set for themselves.

They will have to look at themselves and ask why aren't they trying as hard as you.

Control the amount of information you are giving them about what you are doing

• what if I work/live/love (with) them?
  
  • More tricky but very doable...
• control the information you give to them
• wait till you have momentum
• talk to them about the way they are treating you
• eliminate them from your zone

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Control your emotions and actions or they'll control you, Ep15

Self-control is the ultimate expression of maturity and character in life. By using self-regulation (Intention - Attention - Distractions - Attitude) in your everyday life you will become more aware of why you do the things you do.

If we are experiencing completely unruly thoughts we will be living our lives like an emotional yo-yo.

Happiness and sadness come from past based thoughts.
Anxiety and fear come from future based thoughts.

Seeing where these above feelings and emotions come at us will help you place them in this model and better understand what it is you are feeling.

There is an INTENTION that underpins every action and every behavior in life.

• what is the intention
• what is the truth about the intention - why are we really wanting to accomplish something.

Once we understand what it is we are looking to achieve, that self-awareness will allow us to know if what we are actually doing will get us there.

Then we can focus our ATTENTION on what it is we want to achieve and are intending to accomplish - then evaluate and assess our actions to see if they are serving us toward that outcome.

• to see if our Internal Representations are accurate or false

Then we evaluate or assess if there are areas in our life that are DISTRACTIONS to what it is we are working toward achieving.

• we do not want the distractions to keep us from our goals
  • distractions can lead to blaming, finger-pointing

Then our focus and ATTENTION is on the DISTRACTION and we lose our sense of INTENTION

How we are moving through the other 3 will determine our ATTITUDE in this cycle.

An outcome you can have with this model is... If I can put these ideas into practice and self-regulate on my end then I can explain and teach this to others.

• this comes from a place of strength and will bring about more of it in every area of your life.

THIS IS A PERPETUAL LOOP THAT GOES ON AND ON IN LIFE ALWAYS... LITERALLY ALWAYS

 

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To burn or not to burn the bridge - How to mend or end relationships in life, Ep14

Don't fear rejection because it's not about you, it's about them.
- You can not lose what you didn't have.
- If the relationship is strained then you are at a crossroad and something has to be done.
- DO NOT put other's needs above your own. It is time for you to heal and grow and move forward and step into a new you.

How would you act or respond in the conversation if you felt 100% WORTHY!?

1. Why is it important

• When you choose to make a drastic, life-changing decision, you will have to take inventory of the people in your life.
  • Are they going to support the new you?
  • Are they going to drag you down or back to your old ways?
  • Are they going to want to join you?

2. What does saying goodbye look like?

• It will end the way you set your intention for it to end.
  • you can NOT control how someone responds
  • you can only control the way you act and respond within the parameters of the conversation and moving forward when that person's name is brought up in conversation.
• Set an intention for a positive outcome when you start the conversation with the person
  • Be honest
  • forthright
  • transparent
  • courteous
  • humble
  • gracious

3. Do I burn the bridge, stop crossing the bridge, cross the bridge, or ignore the bridge?

• You have to do what's best for you regardless of how it impacts the other person.
  • Saying goodbye to a parent, relative, best friend, friend or acquaintance will be difficult if you don't talk honestly with that person and let them know what you are thinking.

The person could feel owed an apology or a grand gesture. You will choose to make amends or not - and once you have made that decision and acted on it, if they are still unable or unwilling to see you differently then you will have to choose whether that works for you in this stage of your sobriety and recovery.

4. How to have that conversation

• Honestly and without a lot of emotional triggers.
  • If the conversation dissolves into an argument then nothing positive will be attained from that segment of the interaction.
  • Calm down, breathe - and reset

Realize you are arguing over the problem, not one another. The situation between the two of you is the issue at hand and calling back to memories of what each other did rather than figuring out better ways to deal with life moving forward will leave everyone chasing a tail that can't be caught.

5. What if it doesn't go great or what if it does go great?

• The conversation started as one where you are ready to cut ties with the other person for a period of time - a day, week, month, year, FOREVER.
  • If it ends in a hug, handshake, fist bump - or anything other than middle-fingers, physicality, and/or violence then consider that a win.
  • If it goes well then the friendship is ready for mending and you take it slow.
  • Prove to each other that this change is for real and that the sentiment shown in the conversation was real and lasting.

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You are worthy of abundance, prosperity, and forgiveness BECAUSE of your imperfections, Ep13

We've made mistakes, hurt others, hurt ourselves - yes, we know there are many amends to be made, and many that already have been. These errors in our ways do not mean we are no longer worthy or entitled to abundance. We are human and we are perfect when we are acting and behaving imperfectly.

Failure comes from not learning the lessons we were offered through our actions that brought about negative outcomes. In fact, negative outcomes only stay negative when we don't learn the lesson the universe desired from us. 

Abundance isn't taken from us because of our bad behaviors - we are just as worthy as anyone else and after this episode, you will realize that you are worthy of your own forgiveness first and everyone else's later.

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