Have you ever looked in the mirror and been disappointed with who’s looking back, or even worse, horrified by who you’ve become? After awakening in his bathtub, practically dead and not sure how to face another day, Jesse decided he didn’t want to die - he wanted to live differently. From that moment on, he decided to figure out how to do just that, live differently, and to become the person who didn't waste his potential.
In 2017, after two decades of battling addiction, Jesse embarked on a life-altering path toward long-term addiction recovery. This podcast delves into the nuances distinguishing sobriety from long-term recovery and how to handle those pesky emotions active addiction helped keep at bay. Jesse shares his personal experience, transitioning from the depths of addiction to a proactive journey of recovery.
Discover the power of a growth mindset, the art of processing and releasing emotions, the significance of nurturing relationships, the importance of self-forgiveness, and building a fulfilling life beyond addiction - through a powerful Neuro-Linguistic Programming lens of life. Jesse’s story is a testament to the transformative power of recovery, providing insights and support for others on their journey.
Join Jesse as he navigates the complex yet rewarding terrain of long-term recovery, featuring real-life stories, expert recovery coaching advice, and a supportive community. This podcast is a beacon of hope and guidance for anyone seeking to turn the page from addiction to a life of purpose and joy.
Episodes
Tuesday Jul 23, 2019
Tuesday Jul 23, 2019
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you, it's because of them. When we take something personally, we make the assumption they know what's in our world, and we try to impose our world on theirs.
Why is not taking anything personally important?
- Because you are in control of your world, not theirs, so you have no idea why they just behaved that way toward you.
- Reacting emotionally is your old way of thinking and this new, better you, is more grounded and centered in your life and sobriety joureny.
What is not taking things personally look like.
- You shrug off insults
- You understand that people can still CHOOSE to believe in the old you, to see the old you, to think that nobody ever changes and you will always be who you were.
- That is their limiting mindset about themselves and not for you to take on as fact. Their poison is for them to take alone.
How to not take things personally
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Remember what someone say to you, about you, or around you is their own opinion of the world as they see it - it is their projection of their belief system upon you and not yours, so don't pay it any mind.
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Breathe deep and think about what it would do to you to take on their insult as fact and why you know that's not helpful to your sobriety.
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Laugh it off, walk away, continue doing what ever it is you were doing are acceptable responses to thier indignity toward you.
Remember - reacting is with emotion, responding is with thought.
What if you find yourself taking things personally.
- Breathe into the moment and ask yourself if it is worth your energy to take their poison as your own.
- Look at their actions as their own pain and suffering that they have to look forward to evolving from and then see if you can be of service to them.
- Be introspective of your actions and see where you can be a better role model for how to act in stressful situations.
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Tuesday Jul 16, 2019
Tuesday Jul 16, 2019
Do you honor your commitments to yourself and others every time you make them? Have you stopped the blaming, complaining, criticizing, and gossiping? Being impeccable with your words means you live a life of integrity & your words/actions are honorable.
The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. It sounds simple enough, but it is definitely not.
You can’t control every circumstance. But you can control how you react to it.
- A sin (or error) is anything and everything you believe, say, or feel which goes against yourself.
- You go against yourself when you criticize, complain, blame, or judge yourself, others, or anything in the world.
- Being without sin is exactly the opposite.
When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, and you do not criticize, complain, blame, or judge yourself, nor do we indulge in guilt or shame.
We do not use our words against others in blaming, criticizing, or gossiping.
We honor our commitments and only make those we intend to follow through on. Most importantly the commitments we make to ourselves.
Do you honor your commitments?
- When you say you’re going to do something, do you really intend to follow through and then actually do it?
- Do you say YES to every request, invitation, or ask because you think you need to, you're a people pleaser and you figure you can flake, make an excuse, or not show up when the time to follow through arrives?
When you tell yourself you are going to do something: workout, lose weight, go to a meeting, do you do it or do you rationalize an excuse to yourself so you can release the commitment without feeling guilty?
How to be imbeccable with your words by activvely listening to yourself and others.
- Actively listen. (Try the eye, eye, nose, mouth loop if you get distracted.)
- Take at least 5-10 seconds to truly pause and think about what the person has said before responding.
- Choose your words slowly and carefully.
- Practise using phrases to show people you are actively listening
- that's interesting, I'm curious about that tell me more, what did you do then, that's awesome, that's cool, fantastic, tell me more.
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Use words that are familiar and comfortable to you, not words to impress people.
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Think of your words as a commitment, a contract - and honor them. Every time.
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Tuesday Jul 09, 2019
Tuesday Jul 09, 2019
The four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz provides a roadmap toward the highest version of yourself. Integrity is crucial in your recovery journey and by harnessing it's virtues you will be freed of the negative weight and repercussions of actions that go against these agreements.
1. Be Impeccable with Your Word
No complaining. No criticising. No blaming. No gossiping.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
How someone responds to you often says more about THEM than it says about you.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
By asking questions you side step assuming you already know the answer. This creates clear communication between the parties involved. Be courageous and ask questions until you fully understand the actions, words, or behaviors.
4. Always Do Your Best
Understand that your best will be fluid, it will change day by day. Being comfortable with this fluctuation in yourself and others is paramount to an understanding, vulnerable, and loving relationship with yourself, your activites, and your realtionships.
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Tuesday Jun 25, 2019
Tuesday Jun 25, 2019
A growth mindset is the ability to see everything as an opportunity to learn, grow, and experience from. That any ability and skill can be developed no matter your background or current abilities.
A fixed mindset is believing that skills, talents, knowledge, etc. are relatively fixed and can not be grown nor cultivated.
A growth mindset realizes every single opportunity in life is a chance for growth - and then, if your mind is open to it, you will learn something, you will experience something you had not previously even considered.
Realize your intelligence, abilities, skills, talents - everything about you can grow and develop in whatever way you decide.
If you have a fixed mindset around your ability to do this, that, or the other - you will probably not even try to learn, grow, and experience new things.
As you begin to complete things, learn things - grow into this new you - you will grow your discipline and your abilities.
It is a positive feedback loop. As you do things, you learn new things, and you realize you can learn and do new things all the time.
Creating that loop will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will know you can grow BECAUSE you are growing which will fuel further growth.
Thank you so much for listening and being a part of this wonderfully supportive community. No longer are we living in the shadows!
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Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
Going to concerts and events you used to party at can be hard, but there are plenty of ways to change how you see the partying going on around you. It's all in perspective and today is the day to start making that change - in your behavior, your attitude and your thoughts.
Bonus: how to fill your normal days with activities that keep you humming along in sobriety.
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Play it out through to the credits.
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Really watch everyone chase the dragon
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Realize you don't have the ability or strength to party for 1 night and move on.
- I do not want to manage it anymore
- I am moving toward my best life
- not away from being a drunk, druggy
- Toward having fun sober
- not away from hoping to enjoy myself sober
How to fill up the time in your normal day
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get a job
- get a job you actually like
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get a hobby
- or 3
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learn to enjoy learning
- find things you are interested in and start learning about them
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start working out and be healthy
- go for walks, hike, explore your city, neighborhood
Thank you so much for listening and being a part of this wonderfully supportive community. No longer are we living in the shadows!
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Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Obstacle thoughts: thoughts that are perceived obstacles to the goal or destination you want to achieve.
- Purpose, direction, and reason for what we are doing with our lives
- Without goals, there is no direction or movement and only stagnation
Obstacle thoughts strengthen themselves by providing evidence through your own actions
- Law of Attraction
- Frequency Bias or Illusion (Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon)
- Confirmation bias
Reticular Activating System - the idea that you see what it is your conscious and unconscious mind is looking for.
Through my actions, the thought becomes more believable the more I think it, fell it, and embody it.
How do we change this?
How do we do it?
You can not do this in your head!
- write it all down
- must be outside of your head
- as an external, separate thing
- obstacle thoughts are optional
When you are in a rush to overcome your current situation you miss out on the skill set that comes from overcoming your own current thinking.
In order to think differently, you have to know what you are thinking now.
- you have to know where you are
- where do I want to go
- what are the obstacles in between
The realizing and overcoming of the Obstacle Thought is the objective - not achieving the outcome!
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Tuesday May 28, 2019
Tuesday May 28, 2019
Your sobriety and recovery must come first or everything else won't even exist - let alone come second. How are you prioritizing yourself? I utilize the four components of life: physical, emotional, mental, & spiritual to structure my addiction recovery.
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This is where I was
- always hungover
- sad, lonely, disconnected, depressed - name a negative emotion and I felt it.
- underachieving
- determination but no motivation
- no direction
- always 80% rarely the last 20%
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This is what happened
- I broke my leg
- laid in bed and drank myself to blackout for three months
- body shut down
- my internal drive began to really get pissed off
- I hit 220 pounds
- my sister got sober - the catalyst for this journey!
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This is where I am now
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NLP master practitioner
- certified life coach
- certified business coach
- multiple certifications for coaching
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Public Speaker: positive habit creation through mindfulness and intention setting
- motivational
- inspirational
- growth mindset
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Podcaster
- From Sobriety to Recovery
- College Success Habits
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Author
- Life's Blueprint
- College Success Habits (Fall 2019 release)
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Sunday May 19, 2019
Sunday May 19, 2019
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Just say NO
- What is important in your life?
- FOMO & YOLO
- Parties are forgotten, grades are forgotten, most everything you do in school, work, LIFE will be forgotten - except the experiences that truly bonded you with other people, places, or things.
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What is the end result? Where are you going to get to?
- Reverse engineer what it is you want the outcome to be and lay down the timeline from there.
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P + 4F
- Priority - the one thing you have to do that day to make the day a success.
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If you, out of nowhere, realize you didn't get this one thing done as you were turning in for bed, you'd shoot up and go right to work on it - that is you Priority for the day!
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Four Focuses - Minor priorities that will shift up if they are not done within a few days of being listed.
- P
- F
- F
- F
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Get yourself to visualize it
What happens if you don't organize your day?
Watch Thom Rigsby's P4F video at this link
Thom Rigsby - Priority and Four Focuses
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Sunday May 12, 2019
Sunday May 12, 2019
Sometimes others are to busy seeing who you were to see who you've become. Sometimes you are to busy seeing your old self in your head or in the mirror to see the new you. Are your actions, behaviors, attitudes, and words conveying you have changed?
You are already making drastic changes in every area of your life because you are fully embracing sobriety and recovery - now, you know it is time to turn it up. You have realized long before now - continuing with old behaviors, attitudes, and actions, while talking the way you always have will only inhibit your growth. It can block the growth you experience, the growth you see and especially what others experience and see.
A new you is already in you. A newer you blossoms out of the new you and soon a newest you will chrysalis from that version. Do not let the caterpillar you were get in the way of the butterfly you are today.
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Tuesday Apr 30, 2019
Tuesday Apr 30, 2019
This is a page from a book my therapist uses for our topics on our Monday night meetings. This was the excerpt for April 29th.
We can define who we are by getting to know ourselves in sobriety and recovery. This means we get to re-evaluate what we stand for, our moral character, our belief systems, what we will enjoy, and what we won't tolerate any longer.
We can also stop judging others by no longer judging ourselves so harshly or at all. When we judge others, we find something we do not like in them.
This passage has many layers, and I look forward to covering them with you in this week's episode.
Getting to know Myself
Today, I will cease looking for my face in other people's faces.
If I want to know who I am, I will observe myself in action, watching the inner workings of my mind.
No one has better access to me than me. If I don't know who I am and what I'm about, I certainly can not expect anyone else to tell me.
When I seek to be defined by others, I live from pillar to post, from one person's idea of me to a job description to a title or role to another person's idea of who I am.
I lose my center and seek to find it in people, places, and things outside myself.
Who I am is a changing thing. There is not one version of me to get to know and, finally, be done with it. I let myself change and grow.
I befriend my changing self
The more peculiar his own man's character, the better it fits him.
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