Have you ever looked in the mirror and been disappointed with who’s looking back, or even worse, horrified by who you’ve become? After awakening in his bathtub, practically dead and not sure how to face another day, Jesse decided he didn’t want to die - he wanted to live differently. From that moment on, he decided to figure out how to do just that, live differently, and to become the person who didn't waste his potential.
In 2017, after two decades of battling addiction, Jesse embarked on a life-altering path toward long-term addiction recovery. This podcast delves into the nuances distinguishing sobriety from long-term recovery and how to handle those pesky emotions active addiction helped keep at bay. Jesse shares his personal experience, transitioning from the depths of addiction to a proactive journey of recovery.
Discover the power of a growth mindset, the art of processing and releasing emotions, the significance of nurturing relationships, the importance of self-forgiveness, and building a fulfilling life beyond addiction - through a powerful Neuro-Linguistic Programming lens of life. Jesse’s story is a testament to the transformative power of recovery, providing insights and support for others on their journey.
Join Jesse as he navigates the complex yet rewarding terrain of long-term recovery, featuring real-life stories, expert recovery coaching advice, and a supportive community. This podcast is a beacon of hope and guidance for anyone seeking to turn the page from addiction to a life of purpose and joy.
Episodes
Tuesday Dec 03, 2019
Tuesday Dec 03, 2019
Ep #40 - In this week's episode we cover how integrity, humility, and gratitude have become the three pillars of my addiction recovery and how you can step into these wonderfully powerful states of being today and on into the new year and new decade.
My therapist has gently nudged me into the direction of running all of my actions through these three states so I can identify if my actions are congruent with my new found belief structure. I can not always say that they do, but I strive to be the best version of myself every day - so being able to recognize where my actions aren't lining up with the promises I have made to myself is extremely powerful.
Sit down with some paper and ask yourself where you have displayed a great version of integrity, humility, and gratitude this year and where you would like to do better next year and throughout the next decade.
**Integrity**
noun
- adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
- the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished:
- to preserve the integrity of the empire.
- a sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition:
the integrity of a ship's hull.
**Humility**
noun
- the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one's own importance, rank, etc.
**Gratitude**
noun
- the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful:
He expressed his gratitude to everyone on the staff.
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Monday Nov 18, 2019
Monday Nov 18, 2019
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Tuesday Nov 12, 2019
Tuesday Nov 12, 2019
Ep #38 - Your emotional growth is crucial in your addiction recovery. Often our inability to handle our emotions in a healthy way is what led us down the path where addiction gripped us. This is why I focus myself on grounding my emotions in facts not opinions.
This is how I do it and how you can too. Being mindful that you create the thoughts and feelings that draw you into certain directions and into the actions that create your life results - you can take control of your mind and be in charge of your inner-voice and outer responses to what others do around you and what you your self do.
Here is the self-coaching model popularized to me by Brooke Castillo.
Circumstance - the facts about what happened
Thoughts - created from the circumstance
Feelings - triggered by your thoughts
Actions - driven by your feelings and emotions
Results - the culmination of the thoughts, feelings, and actions all sparked by the circumstance (an event, or outside trigger)
Check out the episode from my life coach Brooke Castillo where she talks about the life coaching model I cover in this episode. I like the way I talk about it but she is the master for which I listen to with intent and purpose.
Self Coaching Model podcast episode - Brooke Castillo
Show notes for the self coaching model by Brooke Castillo
The above link has a great worksheet you can download and other goodies. I am not an affiliate just a student and avid supporter. Take what you need, leave what you don't.
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Tuesday Nov 05, 2019
Tuesday Nov 05, 2019
In this episode, we discuss the Self sphere and the physical component. The Self/Physical quadrant is one of my more requested episodes and a perfect way to begin our year/decade end/beginning series.
You are in charge of your body. You stepped into sobriety looking to radically change your life - for whatever reason - and as the year ends one of the most popular resolutions is to get in better shape, lose weight, and/or eat healthily.
Everyone has something about themselves they aren't happy with or thrilled about when they look in the mirror. Getting in better shape and/or eating a more healthy diet are not these gigantic Big, Hairy, Audacious goals so many books and magazines convince you they are.
They can't sell books and magazines if they don't get you believing you can't achieve your desires without them.
Here's my simple flow to get up and on the go toward a healthier you.
Set SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely.
These Four Forces drive you toward achievement: Fear, Frustrations, Wants, and Aspirations.
Listen to the episode all the way through for some Boom-Shakalaka wisdom at the end.
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Tuesday Oct 29, 2019
Tuesday Oct 29, 2019
In this week's show I discuss my Life's Blueprint philosophy and the program of the same name. It has done wonders in helping me see my life with clarity so I have confidence in my addiction recovery program and this beautiful journey that is my sober life.
I organize my life into 3-spheres (Career, Self, and Relationships) and 4-components (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.) These 12-quadrants are the foundation for my Life's Blueprint program. By organizing my life using these quadrants I can easily figure out what area of my life I need or want to improve and grow in. This show will lay down our next 12 weeks together and give you all the information you need for your best year ever!
Three Spheres
Career
Self
Relationships
Four Components
Physical
Emotional
Mental
Spiritual
Check out my website: allthewayup.life for more information about how to organize your life with ease for maximum growth and development.
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Tuesday Oct 22, 2019
Tuesday Oct 22, 2019
In this weeks episode I do a quick review of this years episodes so you have a better idea of what to go back and listen to again or for the first time. A terrific way to hear me explain many of the key topics I have covered over the last 34 episodes.
As we prepare to move into holiday season, it's time to start thinking about how you are going to finish the year strong. It's almost time to start talking about the New Year and the New Decade so listen to this quick review so you can easily find the episodes that you most know will help you on your journey.
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Monday Oct 07, 2019
Monday Oct 07, 2019
Meeting the critical needs in life will allow you to grow in your sobriety & recovery. Physiological, Safety, Love & Belonging, Esteem, and Self-Actualization are the five levels of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Know where you're at and focus there.
Physiological Needs:
Maslow considered physiological needs to be the most essential of our needs. If someone is lacking in more than one need, they’re likely to try to meet these physiological needs first.
Safety Needs:
Once people’s physiological requirements are met, the next need that arises is a safe environment. Our safety needs are apparent even early in childhood, as children have a need for safe and predictable environments and typically react with fear or anxiety when these needs are not met.
Love and Belonging Needs:
According to Maslow, the next need in the hierarchy involves feeling loved and accepted. This need includes both romantic relationships as well as ties to friends and family members. It also includes our need to feel that we belong to a social group. Importantly, this need encompasses both feeling loved and feeling love towards others.
Esteem Needs:
Our esteem needs involve the desire to feel good about ourselves. According to Maslow, esteem needs include two components. The first involves feeling self-confidence and feeling good about oneself. The second component involves feeling valued by others; that is, feeling that our achievements and contributions have been recognized by other people. When people’s esteem needs are met, they feel confident and see their contributions and achievements as valuable and important.
Self-Actualization Needs:
Self-actualization refers to feeling fulfilled, or feeling that we are living up to our potential. One unique feature of self-actualization is that it looks different for everyone. For one person, self-actualization might involve helping others; for another person, it might involve achievements in an artistic or creative field. Essentially, self-actualization means feeling that we are doing what we feel we are meant to do.
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Tuesday Oct 01, 2019
Tuesday Oct 01, 2019
You have three minds - Reasonable, Emotional, and Wise. Which one you use when a situation, event, or circumstance occurs determines your reaction or response and that in turn triggers a thought which causes an emotion which drives action and creates an outcome.
So yeah, which mind you use most will pretty much determine how you experience your sobriety, addiction recovery, and life.
My interpretation of the "Life Coaching Model" popularized by Brooke Castillo of "The Life Coaching School" podcast.
Circumstance/Event/Situation TRIGGERS a Thought which CAUSES a Feeling which Drives an Action which Creates an Outcome which, in turn, anchors that Reaction/Response to the circumstance that started this whole circle, to begin with. When the anchor is triggered in the future it will likely bring about a similar response as it did the first time.
When this anchor is triggered repeatedly and the reaction becomes repetitive you will find yourself habituated to the response and, well, that's when addiction finds you at your weakest and - well, we know how that ends.
Here are notes from the show about the Reasonable mind, Emotional mind, and Wise mind.
THE REASONABLE MIND: An individual uses the rational part of their mind when approaching a situation intellectually. They will often plan ahead and make decisions based on the facts. The reasonable mind weighs deeply on information and facts, sometimes to the detriment of productivity or effectiveness. The reasonable mind can often become stuck in opinion and debate. It is often uncompromising and likes rules.
THE EMOTIONAL MIND: The emotional mind is used when feelings control an individual's thoughts and behaviours. They may act impulsively and give little consideration to the consequences. The emotional mind doesn't necessarily work with facts, but it generally works on what it believes the truth is, or a perception of truth, or merely a projection of what it thinks the truth might be.
THE WISE MIND: The wise mind is the balance between the reasonable mind and the emotional mind. Where an individual recognises and respects their feelings, but they are able to respond to them rationally and maturely. The wise mind is that place where the reasonable mind and the emotional mind overlap. It's that part of every person that can know and experience truth; it's where the person knows something to be true or valid.
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Monday Sep 23, 2019
Monday Sep 23, 2019
Some people thrive in misery. You take away their misery and bring them into the light and they die emotionally and spiritually because the pain and suffering has been their only comfort. The thought of someone loving them and helping them without wanting anything in return could never enter their minds. - Mike Tyson
I do not always have it together, it's like 50/50 most the time. Most importantly, I remember what it was like to use. The misery I felt inside myself. The hate and loathing I laid in bed and grappled with when I had to detox myself.
I am no longer comfortable in that misery. I am a whole new, evolved, version of myself. I know days are hard. Weeks are hard. There is love in my life because I love myself for choosing life - and not succumbing to the death that was so near.
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Monday Sep 09, 2019
Monday Sep 09, 2019
Shame is the thought "I am bad," while guilt is the thought "I did something bad." Anxiety is the fear of what will happen in the future. There is a huge difference and knowing which negative emotion you are feeling is key in remedying the trigger.
Keys to remember and use when you feel triggered or are coming out of a trigger & action moment:
You are only responsible for your action
You are not responsible for someone else's reaction, response, or actions.
- You can influence their actions but you are not responsible for them.
STEM: Stop, Think, Evaluate, and Move
Evaluate what you did and ask yourself:
- why did I do it
- what was the driver behind my actions
- how can I behave, act, and respond in a better way next time
- what if a similar situation shows itself
- what will I do then?
- what will be my driver then?
Five steps to handle and overcome shame, anxiety, and other negative emotions:
1. Bring shame (negative emotions) into the light.
2. Untangle what you are feeling.
3. Unhitch what you do from who you are.
4. Recognize your triggers.
5. Make connections. (The opposite of addiction is connection)
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The article and books I reference in this episode:
**Five ways to silence shame** article from Psychology Today
"Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer
"Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown