Always do your best & avoid the negative self-talk & feelings, Ep28

Always doing your best means you put in max effort without over-extending yourself so much that you slide into a H.A.L.T. zone. When you do your best, and you really, deep down, know you did your best you will keep those negative feelings at bay.

* Agreement #4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”
― Don Miguel Ruiz

• The path to personal growth is paved with self-love, kindness and forgiveness… not criticism, judgment and punishment.
  • remember that sometimes your best will be ridiculously awesome. And, at other times it won’t be so awesome.

“Just do your best — in any circumstance in your life. It doesn’t matter if you are sick or tired, if you always do your best there is no way you can judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment. By always doing your best, you will break a big spell that you have been under.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

* The Fourth Agreement is the action of the first three, enabling them to become positive habits.
- It's the agreement that asks you to do just enough, but not too much.
- Perfection is not the goal (it never is!). Doing your best means falling down and getting back up.

* “Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good.”

* Ruiz explains it energetically, “If you try too hard to do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end your best will not be enough. When you overdo, you deplete your body and go against yourself, and it will take you longer to accomplish your goal. But if you do less than your best, you subject yourself to frustrations, self-judgment, guilt and regrets.”

• All of us can start doing this right now. Doing our best is enough. Some days our best can look a lot like - not so great.
• Doing our best includes accepting and forgiving ourselves and others for collective weaknesses and faults.

* “If you do your best in the search for personal freedom, in the search for self-love, you will discover that it’s just a matter of time before you find what you are looking for. It’s not about daydreaming or sitting for hours dreaming in meditation. You have to stand up and be a human. You have to honor the man or woman that you are. Respect your body, enjoy your body, love your body, feed, clean, and heal your body. Exercise and do what makes your body feel good.

** While these agreements sound like they should be common sense, we're all capable of sliding backward and into the grasp of the lower - integrity, humility, and gratitude mindset.

** Being human, our egos - the tranced-out state we can wander off into - all of these examples and more move us away from the positivity of the agreements.

• Resisting these 4 agreements leads to disappointment (in ourselves and others,) anger, suffering, and other calamaties that drive us away from our true self - the one that knowingly took this addiction recovery journey.

• Being mindful of our decision to follow these 4 agreements permits us the freedom of peace of mind that comes with knowing the best we can do is just the best for right now, or today, and later, or tommorrow - everything can feel, look, and sound differently.

“If you are impeccable with your word, if you don’t take anything personally, if you don’t make assumptions, if you always do your best, then you are going to have a beautiful life.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal

 

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